Dear Broken Heart... (my version)

I initially wanted to pen this blog on February but certain circumstances provoked me to do it a month earlier. So here it goes.

First of all, let me just state the obvious. When you fall in love, you take risks; you gamble your heart expecting either to win a happy ending or eventually getting it back --- shattered into pieces nga lang. Because apparently regardless of how hard we tried or how devoted we were to our partners; in love, a fairytale romance just isn’t a guarantee. L {If I may borrow Adele’s words, ‘sometimes it lasts in love but sometimes it hurts instead’}

And when you get your heart crushed, traumatized, chopped, minced, ground, or whatever morbid adjective you can think of; these you do,

Cry! Whether or not it was you who ended the relationship, cry! Cry maybe because you feel like the whole world collapsed on you and that you can’t continue leaving without him/her. Or cry because of anger or hatred feeling that he/she just played you and made you look like a fool.

Cry and drown yourself with tears. Let your lacrimal ducts overwork once in awhile. I tell you, if you don’t feel like crying, you probably weren’t genuinely in love in the first place.

I know that overflowing comforting words or presence from and of friends & family just couldn’t totally patch up your broken heart. Some may even get you more irritated or hopeless. But do listen and then go and cry again all you want.

Get mad! A pure honest heart deserves to be treasured not to be thrown away. It warrants respect, honesty and purity; whereas, a playing unfaithful heart is worthy of goodbye and closure. Whether you are the one who got played at or the one who gave up, it is but normal to be displeased. So go ahead and be furious!

Cry and get mad. Take your time. Healing takes time. There’s no fixed period on that. You mend at your own pace. Because as hackneyed as it sounds, it is YOU alone who can fully restore your heart anew.

Most of all, Prayers! Let God heal us. Let him completely fix our hearts. Let him make it as perfect as it was before. Trust him with absolute completeness.

And once it’s healed, go and venture yet again. Don’t be afraid of getting your heart wounded the second time. Loving, getting hurt, and moving on are all parts of a bigger picture called LIFE! Once you give up on love, you give up on life. :) 

To my brother who was tested of honesty and trust in a relationship. Keep your head up high ‘cause what you did was the right thing. Ponder on things if people deserve second chances. Don’t decide out of pity or kindness. As Kuya Al mentioned, why go back to a dark Exit, if a better illuminated Entrance is at hand… J

To my cousin who I know is suffering a heavy heart. I can only imagine the loathing and fury you feel for those people. I will not say I told you so, because I have always been one of those who encouraged you to just go and do the things that make you happy.

Remember that at those times, loving him made you happy. So don’t regret doing so.

Don’t blame yourself and say that what you did was just plain stupid, because it wasn’t. Loving isn’t stupid. Giving up is. Playing someone's feelings is.

My dear sister, I am not going to squeeze my brain just to think of ways on how we could get vengeance against them, you shouldn’t too. They are not even worth it.

It is of heavy heart that I can only be of help virtually. But I will pray for you. I always will. Go ahead and cry, get mad, stumble and momentarily lose yourself. We will always be here for you no matter what.

And once you get back up, I know you will be a better you. J

To those who are in a relationship now, praise and thank God for giving you that special someone to share life’s ups and downs with.

To those who just got their hearts broken, midway of the healing process or near the recovery finish line. Stay sturdy. Faith, hope and GOD! Remember that everything happens for a reason, you may not know God’s reasons now, but in time, in the near future, you will realize that your once hurtful cruel break up was a preparation for a so much better someone.

And to those who are still looking for Mr./Ms. Right. Be patient. Another cliché says --- God will deliver the Right person, in his Right time, in the Right place, in his perfect plan!

Happy hearts everyone!